Where Do Your Demons Come From
And How do You Face them?
Do you have to face your demons? We all have our demons to face and fight.
But where do they come from?
They come from our childhood, of course.
They are the decisions made by a child in a moment of hurt. A temporary event, given permanent status.
Usually, it involves a parent or another elder in our life. It could be an uncle, an aunt, or a teacher. It could be a grandparent or someone else we respected. It’s usually an authority figure.
The child does or doesn’t do something that disappoints the elder, and in the state of disappointment, they act or say something harshly.
“You’re so stupid.”
“No birthday for you this year.”
The child was doing its best, given its ability and understanding at the time, and sees this as a rejection of self or it’s potential. As a result, the child is traumatized.
Ladies and gentlemen, your demon is born.
You’ll face your demons day in and day out for a long time.
It takes years of pain and suffering and fighting your demons before we understand — if we are fortunate — that the elder was doing its best, given their level of education and emotional maturity at the time, and finally resolves to forgive them, or not.
For me, it was becoming a parent and seeing my shortcomings — my inability to be the best parent that I can be — that started the releasing of the blame and shame from the past. It takes the deprogramming and reprogramming of old memories and the meaning we attach to them.
It is a process of forgiveness. It requires forgiving the child and forgiving the adult. Embracing forgiveness is a long and tedious process of rewriting the old script.
What’s encouraging is that when you’re ready to face your demons and deal with them, the Universe becomes your ally and provides you with what you need to move forward.
The sooner we release the blame and shame, the sooner we can reclaim our greatness. I know it’s easier said than done, but it’s well worth the effort.
What say you?
Rasheed Hooda is a published author and a regular contributor to ILLUMINATION, a writers’ community on Medium where writers support each other.
He is a self-proclaimed weirdo who lives a Freedom Lifestyle and writes about related topics — Travel (a top writer), Personal Growth, Freedom, and entrepreneurship. (Get the Newsletter)
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